Many years ago, a work colleague confided in me about something that had happened to her, causing her to feel, betrayed, humiliated, hurt to the very core of her being, and left her reeling, trying to pick up the pieces of a relationship ripped apart, and wondering how she could ever forgive, trust and let alone Love again.
I too have had to face the choice of either hanging on to a time of betrayal, hurt and intense humiliation, or to let go, forgive, so my inner peace could be restored.
This didn’t happen overnight, and just when I thought I had forgotten the hurt and sense of betrayal, it would rear its ugly head, and my peace would be gone.
It wasn’t until I dropped the ammunition I kept as a protection against getting hurt again, did I finally have peace of heart.
I believe God sees every little detail of our lives, we may wonder why we have to go through such struggles and tough times, but God can use what we go through, as a means of us reaching out to another, who is going through a similar experience.
After my colleague had confided in me, I wrote this for myself and her.
TRUST………LETTING GO.
TO TRUST……..is to have faith
TO HAVE FAITH…….is to let go,
In letting go we drop our suspicions,
Accusations, jealousy and the need for revenge,
These are our protection against getting hurt again,
TOOLS……..
We hang on to like ammunition,
By letting go, we feel vulnerable, naked,
And open to being Hurt again…….
When we have been pierced to the heart by betrayal,
told Lies and deceit,
We want to inflict pain twice as hurtful,
We lose trust and, in its place,
Grows a soul-destroying canker
Of distrust.
A jealousy so strong that,
IF we let it……
It can eat into our very being.
HOW CAN WE FORGIVE?
To forgive would be like letting the one who has hurt us,
Get away with not suffering…
We want to withhold from them
the peace, that
Forgiveness will give them.
Yet……in with holding,
We rob ourselves of obtaining
That peace for ourselves.
Healing takes time……
To trust takes time……
But with faith….and the courage,
To drop our ammunition.
We can learn to have hope in our hearts again,
we can begin to trust, forgive,
And experience deep inner, cleansing Peace.
Giving room for Love.
Lou this is so moving and true! I am sure many people will identify with this and find it incredibly helpful. There are so many broken dreams and broken promises in people’s lives- I pray they will read your words and find peace again.
There is definately a lot to know about this topic. I like all of the points you have made. Celia Codie Redd
I have recently started a web site, the info you offer on this web site has helped me tremendously. Thank you for all of your time & work. Margaret Derrik Clementine
Lovely. Not only the memories themselves, but also the writerly way you forge them into beautiful language. And such a cyclical, gentle ending. Thanks for leading me to this. Ariadne Jeramie Nilla
Hullo there, just started to be aware about your web page through The Big G, and found that it is really informative. I will be grateful should you continue this idea. Cordelia Ansell Anne-Marie
Well I definitely enjoyed reading it. This article provided by you is very practical for proper planning. Kora Evyn Minsk
Hey, thanks for the post. Really looking forward to read more. Great. Carmelina Gabriele Gemperle
Hello there! This blog post could not be written much better! Looking at this post reminds me of my previous roommate! He continually kept talking about this. I will forward this article to him. Fairly certain he will have a great read. I appreciate you for sharing! Carole Cleve Elsa
You, my pal, ROCK! I found just the information I already searched all over the place and just could not locate it. What a great website. Rebecca Jory McGill
Break ups are tough. I had when I was young about 24 years of age. It seemed to me end of world. I hope I knew about your suggestions then. Recovery would have been much faster. But today when I am married and have a wonderful boy I feel great and that the relation before was not worth. Zoe Bronny Beverley
Way cool! Some very valid points! I appreciate you penning this write-up and the rest of the site is also very good. Carmita Tom Nordine